(image via jbon84)
For me, my whole life, I have had attitude. Big, mega, in-your-face attitude . . . but not the attitude that you are thinking of. I'm not talking about the angry, violent, stressed crazy attitude that seems to be afflicting a lot of people lately, but the quiet, driven, "I can do it myself" attitude. Yes, positive attitude, that captures peoples attention in a more receptive way.
You see, I was taught by my (very smart) parents to have a "can do" attitude and this rubbed off on me so strongly that it has stuck with me through life, even when the chips are down and I have felt confused about where to go and what to do. Keeping this "can do" attitude, however, drives you forward, you strive to get yourself out of difficult, or uncontrollable situations, because you are taking responsibility for your own actions. This is where the correct attitude comes into play.
If you have "bad" attitude you are more likely to play the "victim" card, blaming everyone else for the situation that you are in and giving into the helplessness that seeps into your thoughts. You expect others to dig you out of the hole you're in and when they don't you get angry and in their face and, in extreme cases, violent and uncontrollable towards others (I can't help but think of the London riots last summer . . .).
If you have "good" attitude you are more likely to "own" the situation, admit your mistakes, and plot your way out of the situation you find yourself in. "Good" attitude is all about positive action and realising that it is up to you to get yourself ahead in life (and if your lucky you will have the support of family and friends - but you don't need to rely on them all the time). When you "own" the situation you are taking responsibility for your actions and this is a very powerful position to be standing in. When you take control you can structure your life to the way you want it, the way that is best for you and you alone.
Do you have "good" or "bad" attitude? Would you like to change your attitude for the better? Let me know what you think - firstname.lastname@example.org