(Here I am about to get ready to keynote at the #TeachMeetYork - a HUGE dose of self belief and belief in others is there in that photo.)
Last week I gave a keynote at an event called a teach meet .....
A what's meet?? I hear you say.
A teach meet, and for those not in the know, it is essentially a large gathering of teachers (in this case over 200) where they can listen to speakers, network, and generally grow their own knowledge to help them help young people. This was my first teach meet ever and to be honest I had a ball. The passion for teaching, the excitement for knowledge, the drive to change lives in that room was palpable, it spoke so much to the goals my colleagues, Jayne and Frederika, and I have set for our RWS programme. There were quite a few pertinent themes that presented themselves through the meet - resilience, well being, mental health, stress management, etc, but one theme that I touched on in my talk, and that quite a few teachers approached me about afterwards, was self belief and believing in others.
The power of believing in yourself and others is so potent - when you can truly back yourself and others you make the impossible possible. Obstacles and problems don't seem insurmountable, and you really start to see the possibilities in life, even if it seems hopeless. You see, having self belief and belief in others is really about having faith (and I don't mean just faith within a religious setting, but faith in the fact that if you put something out there, in the ether, either an action or a word, it will create the conditions for a reaction). Having faith in yourself and others means that you come to expect results, you acknowledge that the results may be different then what you initially expect (or they might end up being what you expect - that is life), and you start to see the patterns of action and reaction really come alive.
So what does belief look like?
It looks like the 5am training sessions I used to go too, it looks like staying back at work to help a colleague put the finishing touches on a project, it looks like the baby lifting his head for the first time ever, it looks like the twenty-something stepping off the plane into a foreign land, it is all of these things and so much more.
So how do you develop a healthy, inherent belief in yourself and others?
1. You have to recognise that all have potential to fill, you, your family members, your friends, and strangers all over the world. When you recognise this you can see that there is a place for everyone and their ideas, actions, and intentions. Recognise that we all start from the same point of potential to make or do something; the ability to create and give to the world is universal.
2. Inspire and be inspired - this is a given. One of my many job descriptions is that of Inspirational Speaker, and even though I love inspiring others to achieve great things, I am human and I need inspiring too. I have quite a few people I look at that inspire me to be bigger and better and greater then myself, and this is in every area of my life. Business-wise people such as Leonie Dawson, Gala Darling, and Danielle LaPorte inspire me, life-wise people such as The Minimalists, Sarah Wilson, and Sprinkle of Glitter. There are colleagues and friends who inspire me and believe in me, people like Jayne Snell, Frederika Roberts, and Richard McCann. If you really look you can find so many people that will inspire and motivate you, even while you inspire and motivate others.
3. Join a Mutual Admiration Society (or MAS) .... okay, don't go googling for a local MAS, Mutual Admiration Society is what I say I'm a part of when I'm with friends and we start telling each other how wonderful and awesome we are ... so that being the case, it's dead easy to start your own whenever, and with whoever you wish. Don't be shy handing out compliments, and don't be embarrassed to receive them, just as you want people you admire to know that you see them and you love them and you think their ace, other people will want to do the same for you.
Follow these three tips and I guarantee that your self belief and belief in others will sky rocket, right up there, through the clouds, up, up, and away.