“I’m sorry to tell you, you have 2 to 6 years to live”,
I was told this in the Spring of 2011, I was devastated. I was 41, a wife and a Mum to 2 teenage
children. It was like falling out of a plane without a parachute, speeding towards the ground……all
my dreams and goals evaporating into the air.
Wow, all my dreams and goals evaporating into the air? In 2011 I wasn’t really focused on any
dreams or goals, I wasn’t taking action towards anything, I was plodding through life. I didn’t really
know I had dreams and goals until this moment, and now they were evaporating away! I knew I
was capable of more in my career, I knew I was capable of more in my personal life, obviously my
health could be better…… but I didn’t have my dreams written down, I wasn’t really conscious of
my dreams, therefore I did not change a thing! I plodded.
It was only when I was faced with no future, with my own death that I truly realised what I wanted in
my life. How sad is that statement? But the true realisation is that the majority of us don’t actively
pursue the life we want, we get trapped by day to day life, with our careers, with school runs, with
technology and social media, with the need to make money, to survive!
I was unlucky that my illness progressed far quicker than expected and it was only 7 months
later that my health deteriorated to the extent I needed treatment. I had MDS (a rare blood cancer/
bone marrow failure), but 7 months later I also had Acute Myeloid Leukaemia…..not a good
position to be in at all!
I was lucky in that I was able to have a bone marrow transplant. Lucky? Yes. I had the chance of
a cure, a 60% chance of surviving. I spent the majority of 2012 receiving treatment. I spent 8
weeks in isolation treating the leukaemia with chemotherapy, and then a further 4 weeks in hospital
having chemotherapy and total body irradiation before I had my stem cell transplant. A stranger
gave me the gift of life. WOW! (check out www.anthonynolan.org or please email me if you would
like further information).
During 2012 I researched a lot about the mind and body connection, about living the life we are
truly meant to live. I believe that when we do this, when we connect with ourselves and ask
ourselves what it is we want from life and truly listen to the answers we live a more healthy, fulfilling
life. Of course, it isn't easy following our dreams. We have to take action. Without action our dreams
are just a wish list. I realised in hospital that when I was well I wanted to do something that made a
difference, I wanted to be an Inspirational Speaker and Personal Development Coach, I believe we
owe it to ourselves to be the best version of us that we can be, to live a life of balance, one where
we are happy today but excited for our tomorrows.
An Inspirational Speaker……that has been a massive challenge for me. I was initially petrified of
standing up and speaking to people but I realised that my message and my talk was more
important than the fear I felt. Do you have a dream that you are afraid to admit too, does it seem
too big or too scary? Do you want to change something or improve something? What is it that you
do want for you, for your future?
How did I do it? I made a list of exactly what I needed to do to achieve my goal, I worked through
my list, I conquered the challenges by breaking them down into smaller, achievable steps, and do
you know what…..sometimes you just have to step outside of your comfort zone and do what it is
you want to do. Gradually your comfort zone stretches and you as a person grow.
The main ingredient for success is to take daily action, even if it is only tiny steps towards
achieving your dream, to achieving the life you want. Action and commitment are key. If you want
it you will not allow excuses to get in the way, take control of your mind, of your attitude……do not
allow others to tell you that you can not do it, and do not tell yourself you can not do it. Give 100%
commitment, it is your life, your responsibility…..it is up to YOU!!!!
My biggest dream is to one day be a Grandma. Isn’t it funny, that my biggest dream is to do with
my family and with love.
My 2nd biggest dream is to live the life I want and inspire others to do the same, through my
keynote presentation titled Parachute of Dreams, and through my coaching programme.
Jayne is an Inspirational Speaker and Personal Development Coach.
LinkedIn: Jayne Snell