. . . and changing that which can.
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There is a HUGE thing in my life that cannot be changed, and it is a thing that many people, if they had it, would want to change - but I don't. Want to change it that is. My disability is with me for life, and the quicker that I accepted that the better, and I accepted it at a pretty young age. SO I can't change my missing limbs, I can't change growing old, and I can't change change my sex (well I can, if I wanted too, with surgery and all that, but I feel very much like a woman, so no enchilada - literally!) but I can change other things. I can change my mind, I can change my health, I can change my career, I can change my response, I can change my heart, I can change my strength, I can change my breathe, I can change how I see things, I can change, just purely and simply change. AND the magic of this change is that it can do something marvelous to the unchangeable . . . read on.
In the process of change comes the process of acceptance, acceptance of the unchangeable.
What do you find unchangeable in your own life? Or, what can you change?
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Change, essentially, is an evolutionary process, we are in constant shifts, at no point are we ever exactly the same as we ever have been. But to have a certain level of openness to change means that you can direct it towards passion, towards peace, towards life party time!!
Tara Gentile, entrepreneur extraordinary, say, "We are always rejecting and reclaiming, in what is often both a beautiful and ugly cycle. We resist change and then embrace it. We are open to possibility and then make up our minds."
Change becomes the unchangeable, to only change again, it is only through static positions that we fail to see the beautiful possibilities.
I see possibilities, even with my disability. Through caring for my body, strengthening it, I can achieve what would have been physical impossibilities - I shift what is essentially unchangeable. I say I shift the unchangeable, because my limbs aren't going to grow back, but I can shift my energy and strength to open up more physical possibilities.
But, to shift the body, is to change the mind, to let go so that you can be open. In the process of letting go of drama, angst, and confrontation, you are embracing the present and you are embracing your future, imperfect, self . . . you know, your 'warts and all!!' Cause guess what, acceptance and letting go are actually the same thing.
Accepting that my limbs won't grow back is not being defeatist . . . cause honestly, they ain't coming back!! Accepting my missing limbs as missing is strength and knowledge of myself . . . and your own inherently unchangeable factor can also make you strong and knowledgeable, cause that strength is already there, deep deep down, it can just take a little digging to find it.
The best changes come about without criticism, without condemnation, without regret. Our lives are our lives are our lives, and they have made us who we are, and each changeable step forward takes us even further into ourselves. Hence, change is not scary, it is an intrinsic part of you, and that which cannot be changed can be shifted, shifted to empower you even more.
Change while you can, whilst you are aware, embrace it, love it, see life as the journey that it is, cause quite frankly it can be wonderful if you want it to be . . .
"Your Determination is Limitless"
- Elizabeth Wright